I like it. Make Mastodon more like Tumblr, but with less fuckery from staff and less need for stuff like xKit. Yes pls, sounds good.
If people leave because all of the SJWs and queers are coming in and “spoiling” the place, GOOD.
I'm actually very fond of Tumblr's community. I've met some very good people on there, and some very good friends.
Like, Tumblr was literally my first exposure to the “you are valid” culture. Where… yes! You are hurting! You are weird! You are messed up! That's okay!
Like, do you know how much of positivity culture talks about how to recover from bad shit, but doesn't really talk about how it's OKAY that you're suffering through bad shit? Like, doesn't dispense with that conclusively?
It's like there are two things you need to do: acknowledge that something is a problem (AND IT'S NOT YOU, YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM), and this is how to recover.
Tumblr folk get so much shit for “wallowing in their illnesses” when it's actually not that. It's actually building that foundational comfort in self, to validate that this hurt exists, that this pain is here, BEFORE you move on.
And YES, you can be stuck in it, which is why then you focus on recovery. But FIRST…
This was like a sticking point between me and the spouse for a while: like, they'd go on about how it's important to do these things and move on from one's negativity and it wouldn't work for me, and when I asked for that affirmation that I'm not BAD for being fucked up, they'd be like: “Isn't that obvious?”
It's really not. People need to feel like they're okay despite where they are, before they can feel okay to move to something better.
