"...recovery means responsibility. It means not giving in to the improper assumption that this is who you are, or that yourmmpersonal transgressions are forgiven..because you say..that you’ve suffered..trauma of your own. It means understanding how it shaped your behaviour, but making amends and owning..your actions, and working toward genuine emotional openness and understanding. We want to think we can..by simply saying, “I made mistakes,” but that’s not [so]."