Hello, before I have any friends or connections here I'm gonna talk about shame and envy! Let me tell you, reader, these motherfuckers are two sides of the same coin, for me anyway, and I experience them ON THE REG. I mean daily.
If I see somebody praising or complimenting somebody else in a way that I want to be praised or complimented, I immediately feel both envy of the complimented person, and shame that I have not done whatever things I would have needed to do in order to earn the compliment or praise.
BUT THEN, when I AM complimented or praised, I immediately try to find ways why it doesn't actually count. And I am fucking GREAT at interrogating pleasures.
@pts oh yeah I catch myself doing the same thing sometimes.
Trying to get better at it and weirdly enough, with getting better at accepting praise, I also seem to feel less envy.
When I do notice I'm doing it I try to force myself to be happy for them. like "That's so cool!" or "you deserve it!". I sometimes works well.
@RebelMoogle Thanks, friend. It's a process.
@pts :two_hearts:
@pts I used to experience this all the time. Don't be afraid to tell yourself you're good enough, it's not arrogance, it's self-love.