Back when I was active on Usenet it was considered pretty normal to have house rules for any newsgroup, you were also expected to refrain from posting long enough to notice and learn the unspoken customs (this was called "lurking").
Nowadays people see it as an orchestrated attack against free speech, shout references to 1984, and threaten to move elsewhere.
Yet the ones asking us all to behave politely are called "hypersensitive"?
@jkb I seem to recall at least one usenet FAQ suggesting the lurking period to be 30 days. Can you imagine? That seems very resonable in this type of federated system, where each instance is likely to have its own norms, customs, and culture.
Hang out. Start slow. Maybe you'll like the company, maybe you won't. Maybe a different instance will be a better fit.
(Note: I just jumped in, tho', so ...)
@emdeesee We're getting used to faster and faster communication and more and more instant gratification I guess. I also started talking to people immediately after joining Octodon, mostly assuming things to be the same as they are in the birdhouse, I'm also guilty of rudeness.
Let's see how things shape up, let's try and make the place comfortable for most if not everyone. Knowing the admin I'm confident it will turn out just fine.