@CountZero Ha, no, only once. And I am definitely NOT dropping hints. We just haven't decided one way or the other what the plan is, yet.

@SuzanEraslan oooh ooooooK!😉

@tcql Thanks! They're also heckin' EXPENSIVE, but I never thought I would get married, anyway, so why not have fun with it?

@aldersprig I grew up in the only 4 star restaurant in my home town, and we had a huge ballroom, so it's where all the fancy weddings happened. I know from weddings, having been to or wo

@SuzanEraslan yeah, I can imagine you would!!

@aldersprig ugh, somehow hit toot too soon-- having been to or worked dozens of them. The trick is to make it fun. The question is just, "Will ours be fun, or will it be fraught because my future father-in-law is a right wing nut job?"

So today, I am going back to try on those 4, take video since I can't decide from just pouring over photos, and try to feel good about it, again, instead of spitefully leaning toward the dress my mom hates the most as the obvious choice.

@SuzanEraslan The most important thing is how you _feel_ when you wear the dress. (And if you can afford it 🤑 )

@susannah Yeah, I tried reminding my mom that she HATED the dress she has since decided is the greatest dress on planet earth when I sent her (PROFESSIONAL!) photos of it, but once she saw it on me in person she loved it. Of course she's not hearing that at all. She's being a total fucking bridezilla, and she's not even getting married!

@SuzanEraslan Oh gosh, moms really know how to push all our buttons! I hope you recapture the fun you had and find something totally you!

@SuzanEraslan I'm sorry. 😡

My sister's dresses looked awful in the photos she sent me. I told her it was hard to tell from the photos and so we talked about the details, colors (which were definitely not coming across in the photo), how it made her feel, and very specific details of fit (does it need to be taken out around your shoulders?). I did NOT tell her they looked awful.

I never liked the photos, but she was just PERFECT in the dress on her wedding day.