Jesus, is there anything more suffocating on social media than complete strangers "liking" and commenting on everything you post as if you're close friends?
@Richard_ermen I think you can. I think everyone, especially as we get older, can understand that no one likes perfect strangers trying to barge into their lives.
@Richard_ermen @Frankenbeans [barging in on the conversation:] I think it's also to do with platform design.
Twitter and Mastodon are following a sort of "everyone is a broadcaster" model which encourages that sort of casual commenting, but Facebook not so much, because subtle design differences make it more focused on friends and family.
@apLundell @Richard_ermen Yeah, I'm really bitching about Facebook. One of the reasons why I've been so hesitant to talk about Mastodon on Facebook (and especially reveal where I'm active) is that I don't want a bunch of those people coming over here to do the same.
@Frankenbeans Possibly?
Seriously - you don't have to make your toots fully public, you can restrict distribution.
@RexfordGTugwell I'm bitching about Facebook. I could block and/or narrow post distribution there, as well, although I have a public account and these people are all technically "friends." Also, it's rarely couched in the kind of sexual aggression that women friends of mine face, so it's a small thing.
@Frankenbeans Sincere question: isn't that part of the expectations of a public federated toot? That has been much of the appeal and fun of mastodon for me, joining wider conversations and making new friends based on common interests. Other than you having a private/ non federated feed, what would be a good indicator for people like me to determine you don't want to be interacted with?
@ZedFable I'm mostly bitching about a Facebore phenomenon. But, you raise an interesting question lots of people have been asking the last few days ... how to make the federated timeline more useful. Some folks are saying that there's too much information in federated for it to be useful. But, yes, connecting to people I'd otherwise never connect with is the fun.
@Frankenbeans I suppose it´s just part of a re-adjustment period one has following a broader social media period, a socalled acclimatization, if you will? After all, where only tiny pictures and texts have to convey intent and ideas, we cannot act as if with social grace, now can we?