**SysAdmin1138** @sysadmin1138 · 2018-03-29T20:27:43Z

SysAdmin1138 @sysadmin1138

I was raised by a fat-lady who didn't want to be fat. That has a bunch of side-effects, like dad being very sensitive to the weight of his kids, me following a shame-enforced 3 meal no snacking policy most of the time growing up (it wasn't a rule, but there was judgment when it happened), and my sister having an eating disorder for a few years.

In adulthood, I'm still a 3-meal person. And I've been actively trying to avoid pathologizing my food.

That may have to change.

Mar 29, 2018, 20:27 · Tusky · 0 · 0

**SysAdmin1138** @sysadmin1138 · Mar 29, 2018, 20:32

**SysAdmin1138** @sysadmin1138 · Mar 29, 2018, 20:32

Mar 29, 2018, 20:32

SysAdmin1138 @sysadmin1138

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Due to age and other things my blood-chemistry is beginning to make my doctor say those magic six words every woman hates to hear (you should lose a few pounds). It was "might want to" for a while, but I've graduated to "should". Some of it is bullshit BMI, but the things I'm high on are the kinds of things that weight sometimes helps.

I'm exercising, so some of that is muscle. But not close to all of it.

In the "not helping" category is my problems with certain foods. Like greens.

**SysAdmin1138** @sysadmin1138 · Mar 29, 2018, 20:34

**SysAdmin1138** @sysadmin1138 · Mar 29, 2018, 20:34

Mar 29, 2018, 20:34

SysAdmin1138 @sysadmin1138

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When suggesting I should eat my veggies didn't work, my parents went to coercive methods as a kid. The side-effect of that is anything with that green crunch sets off a horrible nausea attack that I have zero motivation to fix. That makes 'eating healthy' much harder.

**SysAdmin1138** @sysadmin1138 · Mar 29, 2018, 20:39

**SysAdmin1138** @sysadmin1138 · Mar 29, 2018, 20:39

Mar 29, 2018, 20:39

SysAdmin1138 @sysadmin1138

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All this means that I'm staring at the concept of actually /dieting/ for the first time in my life, since my half-diet methods no longer seem to work now.

I don't want to pathologize food.

I don't want my body/brain to forget what 'hungry' means.

**🌳 Fritillaria 🌳** @Fritillaria2 · Mar 29, 2018, 20:59

**🌳 Fritillaria 🌳** @Fritillaria2 · Mar 29, 2018, 20:59

Mar 29, 2018, 20:59

🌳 Fritillaria 🌳 @Fritillaria2

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@sysadmin1138 I love vegetables, but I'm lazy about cooking them. 😊 I'm doing fine.

I did lose a lot of weight and am mostly keeping it off (with some bobbles). One thing that helped immensely (it's not what you'd expect) is to *allow* myself to obsess about weight and pathologize my food. Yup. Unless it results a serious health crisis, it's totally okay to do this. No apologies. Focus on the other stuff that helps.