@ayachan You're right. It's one of the worst kinds of emotional labor one can do, and probably one of the hardest, because the obsessive types are the ones who would buy your shopping lists if you were to publish them.

If you think dealing with toxic masculinity in others is fun, try being a man and struggling against it yourself. It's so easy to rationalize sometimes, too, like when I had the flu at Christmas. I justified refusing help by saying it was to avoid spreading the disease.