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if you love something, talk shit about it on the internet every day

was gonna toot about how much corn rules and then was gonna toot about how great fennel is when it's really strong in sausage and then i was like dude what if instead of tooting you ate lunch, dummy

with all the focus on dicks and penetration and being scared of vibrators and not wanting to use lube for some reason and 'which one of you is the man' do you ever worry that straight people just straight up do not understand what sex is

my first prose drafts always feel so rushed

pilot is as done as it's gonna be rn so I'm getting back to this book I did four drafts of and then tabled because I was tired of it

i love the movie arrival so much

i get a headache *immediately* from decent beer like the craft stuff everybody loves, but man do i crave and then enjoy a can of coors light like twice a year.

the silver bullet.

the champagne of silver bullets

wow I don't even remember what I was going for but 'declining' is definitely the wrong word here. finding? developing? oof

baby found a candle in a jar and invented a hilarious game where he pretends to drink it

im so proud

DID U KNOW, BTW: almost nobody is crazy

I've worked with people with schizophrenia, delusions, hallucinations, dissociative identity disorder, man you name it. you're almost never dealing with crazy and almost always dealing with coping mechanisms for trauma ime

this is a very 2010s psychology thing to say but it sure feels true rn

people make sense even when they seem like they don't

did u know: trans people are literally not crazy

this is about general trauma but it's wild how clearly time spent trying not to be trans (basically from toddlerhood to coming out, whenever coming out happens) functions as trauma for trans people - no access to emotional congruency, feeling like your life story doesn't make sense / add up, feeling like it's impossible to connect with others on a deep level

specifically this idea that crucial things to getting to a better place wrt trauma history include declining empathy for yourself, a coherent life narrative, and learning to have a congruent affect

this workshop is so good though. so rad to hear that what you've been doing as a therapist - what carlerogers was doing as a therapist three or four generations ago! - is being confirmed by modern neurological research etc

at a day-long workshop/presentation on working with traumatized teenagers led by a woman. shoutout to every dude who interrupts her - in a room with at least a hundred people in it - to restate what the she just said as if it wasn't yet meaningful because it hadn't yet been said by a man

think I'm gonna call it 'the freaks, nerds, and romantics'

"closets of new jersey" is the worst name for a tv show you've ever heard right

also my person in la liked the pilot and only had minor notes :o

funny how one (admittedly almost five year long) controlling relationship almost 20 years ago leaves me scared and feeling like I'll be in trouble if I change plans at the last minute even today

guess I just sent that pilot to my person in LA for thoughts / advice / notes. aaaahh