That's not even to say that those systems are bad because of being controlled in that way (although I mostly think that too), but just that the metaphor is so distractingly inapt.
People like that Apple hardware and software automatically works well together or has a single design or style -- sure, I get that. Natural ecosystems are not like that.
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