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I donât think I am sacrificing myself for my kids. Actually I have learnt that I need to stay functional for them. I think my parenting is rather âoptimizedâ and trying to be fair: I try to find best solutions for all involved and donât expect the kids to carry the major burden: If I can move further toward them: Why should I not? I think there are enough real constraints in live, so why should I put up artificial constraints?
Another thought that brought more peace: âPeople before stuffâ. I like to finish things, but when the toddlers are crying right now, I can most of the time just interrupt what I am doing, comfort them and continue my work later. (There are still enough âhard constraintsâ when I cannot comfort them. So I donât think they âwonât learn to waitâ. I hope they will learn that you should help when you can and if you donât help, you most likely canât.)
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Another thought that brought more peace: âPeople before stuffâ. I like to finish things, but when the toddlers are crying right now, I can most of the time just interrupt what I am doing, comfort them and continue my work later. (There are still enough âhard constraintsâ when I cannot comfort them. So I donât think they âwonât learn to waitâ. I hope they will learn that you should help when you can and if you donât help, you most likely canât.)