@jelle_dc oh yeah prefiguration basically. I should really learn more about anarchosyndicalism tbh
@jelle_dc yeah I think I've heard that thing about "propaganda of the deed" before. And actually I did mean that kind of thing. Like not propaganda in the ridiculous sense of "things reactionaries call leftist propaganda", but things that are meant to convince people on the fence about stuff
not just "here's a book of dense anarchist theory, see you in a week" but like "here's something that puts it in perspective and in terms and structures you can easily digest". Things designed to convince.
@lyliawisteria this is like too close to sounding preachy for my comfort, I'm just kind of trying to explain it in a way that doesn't sound like I'm saying your self-care is bad
@lyliawisteria oh yeah for sure. The article wasn't saying "calming down" is a bad form of self-care, it was saying it's not always the form of self-care you need in a given moment
for example, I'm emotionally repressed, so like continually repressing any /more/ emotions that come up is like pretty bad for me. So sometimes self-care for me is like reading something sad or upsetting so that I can get myself out of feeling numb for a bit. It's about figuring out what you need in the moment
@lyliawisteria have to what?
@lyliawisteria the article was actually really good, it had all this shit about how self-care is always branded as "calming down", when, like, sometimes (often, really) sadness, or rage, are like completely rational emotions to have, and it fucks you up to always be trying to fight them down
@lyliawisteria yeah. I was gonna add something about that but like. Felt like it diluted my point a little (even though it's an important part of the issue)
CrimethInc. made a pretty good piece about how self-care is like a shitty liberal construct designed to tame the masses a while back. It's pretty good, I can find you a link if you want
mini-rant I guess.
@KitsuneAlicia I mean I'm autistic too. And tbqh it might come to that kind of thing
Assuming I can even get a diagnosis, considering they basically don't diagnose anyone over 18. Unless you've got a couple grand and a plane ticket to get to a "specialist" in adult autism. Not to mention I present atypically thx to being trans
@es2600fm good luck, he sounds like an asshole (assuming it's the same guy you've been talking about lately)
@KitsuneAlicia I've done the whole no-anaesthesia thing enough times to know how rough that is
also like wow I need to figure out how to get on that
As members of the queer community, polyamory should be counted among the acceptances we demand.
It's true that polyamory is not, by definition, queer. But queer people who *are* poly are punished for it in a way poly cishets simply aren't. We should demand equality in this regard.
If you aren't poly, that's fine. I'm not saying it's the only right way. But we need to demand that we feel safe in our right to defy the concept of a nuclear family.