One of the problems with self hosting (other than the question of archiving I recently posed) is that it leads to alienation. โMine! Mine! Host your own!โ When in fact I would love to have small groups of people share. Not many of us, to be sure. Ten or twenty at most. Where everybody can be heard without us paying the cost of #consensus democracy. The price is real, sadly. The German Wikipedia article is better than the English one in explaining, Iโm afraid: https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Konsensdemokratie
Small cooperations running servers and services for their members should have limits and procedures in place that make sure the coop can and will split amiably when the threshold is reached and that means before we all get pissed at each other.
@deejoe Iโm not sure if use the word โforkโ for the splitting of a community but otherwise I agree. When and how to end is best known beforehand.