@Idoubtit ooohhhhhhhhhhh. I am so, so, so, so sorry. I tried living with that sort of dissonance once. I worked at a religious bookstore. Customers, assuming I believed exactly the same things they did, would cheerily start conversations with me about their pet issue, never considering they might be saying something horribly offesnive to me or others in the store. I couldn't say anything because, hey, customer service.

That comfort they felt in being so nasty in front of me made me sick.