IKEA Femme โง ๐ณ๏ธโ๐ @ikea_femme@octodon.social
in one hand: glowing orb with swirling text that reads "pridefest was essentially a state fair with better music, a smattering of queer activism and a dope craft fair"
in the other: another glowing orb that reads "pridefest is sellout bullshit designed for straight people to gawk at while eating carnival food and feeling better about themselves"
i smash the orbs together to attempt to fuse them into one complex opinion. sparks fly. ozone crackles. my hands melt the fuck off
fire fox
New research on how kids from lower socio-economic status communities think about digital privacy. Iโm not surprised these kids have a much more nuanced and powerful understanding of privacy than most in tech. They think of the lack of digital privacy as structural discrimination which is a far more powerful framework than the individual responsibility model everyone else uses. http://journals.sagepub.com/eprint/x5QQDiq34kP8X6hsUR7I/full (open access!)
My fave villager from Animal Crossing is Kitt (Poquette, in French, which is a deformation of "Pocket"!)
She's always super nice. Also, she was the first villager that gave me a photo of themselves back when I played Wild World.
I'm glad she was in the town I got in New Leaf! I hope I get her picture in this town too.
ain't no sentence like an unfinished sentence cuz an unfinished sentence don't
"boy, mastodon has been pretty quiet the last couple days ever since my browser choked and stopped serving up any of my timeline"
Ahhh, 90ยฐ weather, where one's options as a woman are heat exhaustion from wearing too much clothing or street harassment and not fainting.
i swear to god, if the reveal is that luke is secretly evil and has been all along and the rebellion actually lost in Jedi and
@tipsytentacle I'm at six months in a week. It's surreal how well it's worked for me, since I was thinking I was too late for good results at 27.
@b_cavello My sister and I are on the autism spectrum (her moreso, while I'm faint aspergers), and some of her peers are fairly high functioning without good speech skills. So communication outside what's obvious to neurotypical people always interested me.
@tipsytentacle But like, the second I tried female presentation (I grew up in a strict household and wasn't really comfortable expressing myself), it was electric. Like, I felt like I owned and inhabited my body for the first time since I was a kid. It wasn't just some crude interface between me and the world.
@tipsytentacle personally, i didn't really cross dress before transition, but was always jealous of trans women. A part of me thought I didn't "get" to transition because I wasn't really trans. I hate to say, I think emotional intelligence from novel reading did more to help me realize I was trans than what I wore pre-transition. That's how I realized I was dissociating and detached from my feelings and body.
tl;dr: murakami made me a girl with his silly books about walls
@tipsytentacle Eh, there's a stereotypical male and female gait, but it's not as different as you think. Basically, cis women tend to have a lower center of mass, lower pelvic floors, and bigger thighs. So they tend to move their hips more, and take smaller steps.
BUT! HRT changes your fat in that area so that those changes just kind of happen, it's wild.
I highly doubt any woman would get clocked for her walk alone. She'd probably just get read as clumsy.
@tipsytentacle Yeah, I could do voice work, but it's hard and never really feels like it'd be easy for me. It's not like changing how you dress or walk, it feels like a difficult and stressful performance, while so much of transition has felt natural to me.
Thinking about learning sign language, because casually communicating without speech actually sounds neat as hell. Area trans woman gets around voice dysphoria with one weird trick.
@tariqk Peter Singer: why am I banned for griefing if that griefing ultimately creates videos beloved by the community?
the answer to many of the questions about harassment is "rely on your instance admin" - but right now, visibility on how to pick an instance is so low, you could very easily not know:
- who your admin is
- what the CoC for your instance is
- how soon can you expect a response
https://octodon.social/media/VpRlQ8Pn5vdnRzTCsAo
Fiancee put film in the camera backwards. I fixed it, she took a picture.
@Dimduning I'm in the US, so I'm lucky to be at the edge of some store's shoe sizes (12W). Torrid and Payless tend to have extremely cheap shoes in my size, but not that much variety.
There's actually a (presumably cisgender) woman about my height in one of my classes who looks like she'd have the same shoe size, and she always has the cutest boots. But I'm afraid to ask where she shops and look like a creep.
