Filling out a pre-marriage counseling survey. First page, asks for gender. Drop-down has only Male and Female. I'm seeing problems already...
At least there's a 'None' in the religion drop-down
"Do you struggle with unhealthy sexual behavior or use of pornography?"
:joy:
Seriously, though
They need a better definition of "unhealthy", I literally don't know (given their apparent problem with porn) whether that means actually unhealthy as in abusive or just non-normative.
Going with "No" for now.
"My partner completely understands and sympathizes with my every mood." No, she's willing to call me out when I'm being moody and unreasonable.
"I do not expect that we will ever have serious problems in our marriage." Does anyone actually answer yes to this one?
"We are as happy as any couple could possibly be." I have no metric for this
"Nothing could cause me to question my love for my partner." Nothing is unquestionable
"I believe most of the difficulties we've experienced before marriage will fade after we're married."
"Time will resolve most of the problems we have as a couple."
Nothing just fades. RELATIONSHIPS TAKE WORK, PEOPLE
"If we were to have problems as a couple, having children could help improve our relationship."
THAT'S NOT HOW THIS WORKS
THAT'S NOT HOW ANYTHING WORKS
"Love is all we will need for a happy marriage."
Look, I can see why they're asking these questions. It's the fact that they have to be asked at all that I have a problem with. The cultural narrative we have around romance and marriage is so toxic.
@Gargoylezoo ughhhghhasddassdasfff. +1 a million times. I have no idea why we've decided, as a culture, that one person is supposed to be everything to you, but I'd love it if that narrative would just die. I'll take my intentionally single life over society's idea of couple-hood any day. I'd be poly if I had the energy, just out of spite.
