I agree. Real names have made it different. It's the new phone book. @Mainebot 's article https://medium.com/tootsuite/replacing-the-pillars-of-the-internet-235836580a0e is excellent (I'm going to check out matrix). I feel trapped on fb. Groups are good but friending most co-workers isn't. For me the entrapment is related to fomo. Step away from the screen and fb gets less important. Getting outside, reading books over articles, etc. Easier said than done.