How do you dress for a work presentation when only half the audience knows your gender? It's in a small town, you'll have to use the men's toilets and it distresses the local blokes if you look "too femme". However, you'll also need to discuss said gender with several work people and you'll need to look "femme enough" for those conversations go smoothly. If your choices make too many people uncomfortable there will be consequences. Does Miss Manners have an etiquette guide for this situation?