A thing I find hard about accepting a feminine identity: not getting distressed at criticisms of men. I've been required to call myself a man for so long that it's hard to adjust. Even when not directed at me, "life on easy setting" remarks hurt. I think about how gender affects me, how I struggle to put voice to my history, and I want to scream. I know I'm reading those comments wrong, but I've been forced to live as a man for so long that it just feels like salt being rubbed in the wounds.