@CobaltVelvet I think that's my concern: I personally don't want to disavow my given name, and in my case it would be disadvantageous to do so. I absolutely agree with the idea that "no deadnaming" should be the default, but ultimately it's the decision of the person in question. Deadnaming *me* isn't offensive because I am not offended and I have publicly declared that this is so. It bugs me that other trans folk have decided to get angry at cis people on my behalf when I don't care myself.