Sometimes I wish I knew other boring middle aged middle class trans women who just want a quiet life. I'm not sure I'm cut out for the political shitfight I seem to be caught up in. Sigh.
In retrospect though, I was always caught up in this. Regardless of what labels we use, the moment amab folks start performing femininity we become a target for transmisogyny by both cis men and cis women. It's just taken me a long time to realise what everyone around me has been doing all along. Oh well.
@danielle Culture is the most relentless enemy. It takes nothing lying down. It lets no slights pass without retaliation. The only way to not fight culture is to (try to) do what it says. It's like the worst kind of bf/gf possible.