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Which is to say: servers choosing how to filter each other is part of the governance process, thus reasonable, but understandably painful. In the future I hope it's enough of under per-user control that the amount of anguish goes down.
Lots of other upsides to that future aside from lower anguish though. I hope we get there! It will take time.
Octodon is a nice general purpose instance.