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Christopher Lemmer Webber @cwebber

Criticism is welcome, but remember to give constructive criticism, which includes consideration of how your criticism will affect the other person emotionally. The golden rule applies: how would you feel if you read the message was directed at you? It's hard for someone to constructively make use of criticism if receiving it is an emotional drain.

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@cwebber People need to stop treating conversations like gladiator fights.

@cwebber As an addition to the "how would you feel" rule, I'd add the "if you spent the past # years working on a project and trying your best to make it as good as possible".

It's the emotional involvement with the project combined with the "y u no fix it?" requests that are the most draining.

@cwebber Yes. The "Critique sandwich" as one of my professors suggestion paired with the use of terms like "in my opinion" and " do you think that maybe". Make it a suggestion paired with positives.Also asking the creator's intentions with a piece first helps. Having context of what's intentional and what isn't helps too. :)

@cwebber True in most instances. It's difficult to be constructive about everything, however, particularly if the toot itself is problematic.
Take plagiarism, for example. I'm hesitant to agree that a thief's feelings on being called out should be given much consideration.

@CrazyMyra Sure, and I'm not saying that constructive criticism is the right response to all situations. But assuming a situation where both parties want to cooperate towards a better end...

@cwebber Definitely. It's one of the joys if Mastodon that people can exchange views in a civil manner.

@cwebber I've found that having both positive and negative constructive criticism can help. Not just "I don't like this, you should change it", but also "I do like this. You should keep it the same or expand upon it." :/

@cwebber Funny thing is I find most Americans and Brits are so concerned with not hurting feelings that their criticisms are sugar coated to the point of being effectively useless even honest.

If I were to follow the golden rule I'd be harsh, to the point most people would see it as almost mean. Because thats how I want people to be with me, brutally honest.

The golden rule only tends to work when everyone has the same sensitivities as you.