So I have an announcement. I sent an email to my work saying that I wanted to be able to focus on my work on taking advancing the federated social web to the next level. Read: better security / abuse resistance, richer interactions, virtual worlds.
How will I be funded to do this? I don't know. I do know that the state of the political world scares me enough that I feel I have to do this. If you want to support me: https://www.patreon.com/cwebber
Wish me luck. More updates soon.
Hi! You may most likely know me as co-editor of ActivityPub, the decentralized social network message which is more-than-likely how you're actually receiving this message! https://www.w3.org/TR/activitypub/
Other things you may want to know:
- I'm a user freedom activist (free software, free culture)
- I post a lot of leftie politics stuff
- Expect lots of tech posts around lisp, decentralized network stuff, obscure-ish programming history
Then I was in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful, supportive, spouse, and after a while I finally opened a dialogue with @dustyweb about all of this. We’ve slowly been working out our sexualities and gender expression together ever since. 7/8
But, demisexuality isn’t that common or widely discussed. It doesn’t even get it’s own letter in LGBTQIA+. It took me well into my thirties to figure this out myself. So, I decided to post this in case there’s someone else out there who could relate and is afraid something is ‘wrong’ with them. You’re fine, you’re not alone. 9/8 (oops, miscounted)
Happy pride everyone!
I’ve always felt kind of mystified by sexuality in general and never quite felt what society told me I was ‘supposed’ to feel. I struggled with relationships trying to compensate for what I was ‘doing wrong’ as a teenager and this led to some seriously warped ideas about my self worth. 4/8
I debated for a long time whether I should post this. I wasn’t sure there was a point to coming out about a lack of attraction. Especially when I’d already been in a stable, loving relationship for nearly 15 years before this all clicked. The label doesn’t functionally change anything about my life or my relationship. 8/8
I was also friends with @cwebber for almost a year before we started dating. We used to joke that we were an ‘old married couple’ before we started dating and it wasn’t until recently that I realized we basically already had a romantic relationship for a long time before we had a physical relationship. 6/8
I enjoy romance plots in books/movies/etc because I have time to get attached to characters or couples together (realizing that I was way more invested in Elizabeth Bennet than Mr. Darcy played a big role in the realization that I was pansexual as well) but for a long time I didn’t feel the same response to real life relationships. 3/8
It means I’m not really attracted to anyone until I have some sort of emotional bond and it took me a long time to put the pieces together. I have a low sex-drive, but while I do still feel attraction it just mostly narrative based rather than physical. 2/8
Oh, guess I should link threads... put the "finished" (end of H&C hangout) version over here: https://octodon.social/@cwebber/106438478325259186
Realizing it's not obvious, but she's holding a game console rather than a purse. Probably a label on the cartridge could make that more obvious.
More updates! some color now
The creature I'm working on at Hack & Craft today!
It's been really fun so far... lots of people working on very different things! :)
In case you want to join: https://fossandcrafts.org/hack-and-craft/
It's also a-ok to drop in and out as you feel like! This is a very intentionally informal gathering.
Hack & Craft, our friendly internet stitch-and-bitch (but really, any crafting is okay, from knitting to coloring books to coding!) is going to start at the top of the hour! Just mere minutes away! https://fossandcrafts.org/hack-and-craft/
See the BBB link. Hope to see you there <3
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