Thinking today about follow-through and completion and how/where we put values on these things.

Why are they valuable and where do we assume they're valuable when maybe they're not?

Reasons why they've valuable:
- when they get stuff done that needs to be done (e.g. library book on shelf, bug fixed in software, dinner finished and edible!)
- finishing a thing can make us feel good.

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But we also put a lot of value on follow-through in hobbies and creative spaces.

And I think sometimes we transfer the value that comes from completing care tasks (dinner is edible! dishes are clean!) and work tasks (employer does not fire me! also I like fixing stuff!) without asking the same why!

Unfinished project? Well, did you just not vibe with it? Was it a good creative experiment but then you wanted to experiment with something else instead?

Your incomplete projects do not mean that YOU are an incomplete or imperfect person.

There definitely value to finishing projects, mostly to ourselves. It's awesome to see your vision realized or how it comes together in a way you didn't quite expect.

It's very important for me to make quilts for the people I love. I have two niblings born during the pandemic and I want to finish their big baby quilts and give them to them, esp since I may not meet them for a long time (vs. newborn quilts). One is already one! 😭

But especially for non-time-bound things, it's ok to let a project for someone come together over a few years. That's how life works. Or to pick up and put down.

Or to put down and know that you show them love in many other ways.

I also have a partially-finished quilt top whose design I'm not terribly into but I wanted to learn the techniques in the class that was teaching the pattern. So I won't finish it, but I may make the last few blocks at some point and I learned stuff!

Anyway, I was just thinking about the number of projects I currently have rolling, how I think and feel about myself in terms of these projects, journalling about all this, and I really settled into the question of "are we transferring the value of completing things from places where they are pretty important to our continued survival/thriving to places where they impair our creative thriving?"

To reiterate:
Your incomplete projects do not mean that YOU are an incomplete or imperfect person.


@platypus Needed to hear this today. Thank you.

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