OK, time for me to make an apology.
I hadn't used XMPP for quite a while. While I liked it last time I used it there were issues keeping connections and the clients were less than stellar.
While the desktop clients for Linux are still a little shaky I can recommend Quicksy (thank you @moparisthebest for the recommendation).
I've been crabby when people recommend XMPP because I didn't realize that folks have taken XMPP from an early 21st century protocol to a joy to use.
@kemonine Eh, my friends suffered through my Jami experiment, so I have hope. This isn't something I'd deploy to my parents, who barely use a smart phone.
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