thinking of writing a 'how to adult' book to explain all the day-to-day shit that's never taught:

- who cleans the toilet cleaner (spoiler: you)
- what the fuck do you do with an old mattress
- bugs: when are they a problem and when are they chill?
- lifehack: a co-working space with a better movie selection than netflix, no membership fee, and professional researchers on location, all for FREE (a millennial re-discovers libraries)
- turning strangers into friends

any other ideas people have?


@paranoid basic household stuff like don't leave your laundry in the washer or it will stink, how to fix things like clogged sink or holes in clothes, stains, what tools do I need at home. Social stuff like how does a relationship survive conflict. Self care like please use sunscreen and moisturize, how do I know if I'm depressed or just in a bad mood, how to prioritize

@paranoid also: dear millennial, you probably won't be able to afford the life your parents have, it's not your fault.
I would personally very much like to include some sex ed: porn is not real, sex can be awkward and messy and funny and amazing but it should be about pleasure, not performance. Everyone has more fun if she comes first.
Oh and in general: talk to people about things you find hard. Don't be embarrassed. No one has it all figured out.

@communeva that last point is probably the most important thing to realize. If you have an idea of how long it takes to learn how to just live, you realize that everyone kinda knows just as much as you (which can be scary because you realize that someone with access to nukes is probably less knowledgeable than you and you wouldn't trust yourself with nukes let alone someone like Trump)

@communeva the depression thing is something I'm still figuring out. Having been seriously depressed for several years in the past. Now if I'm feeling bad I'm like, is this the beginning of another depression, or just "normal"

@paranoid yeah I know. That's hard to figure out. And so scary!
It is important to find your personal reference points though so it can get less scary...

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