Rant alert**
It hurts when the one you love basically says you should not do something because you will just give it up like I always do.
I have been wanting to build stuff for a long time and I am not talking huge projects. I am talking about smaller things like a desktop arcade cabinet and small random projects like that.
She does not realize that she was the reason why I gave up my hobbies that I started.
Continued in comments
@starbreaker I love her, but the way she was raised has made her selfish. And it is easy enough to say dump her, but going through divorce will be difficult with her and I do not want our children to grow up with split parents like I did. I have been able to change her selfish ways a bit, but now she is starting to revert to her old ways.
@starbreaker Anyways, I do still love her. It is her attitude and mindset that is pissing me off.
@bradlibum It's always complicated when you love somebody who's abusive toward you, but the shit she's saying to you is probably psychological abuse, and she isn't going to change until she's ready to do so. In the meantime, you should leave because you deserve better.
@starbreaker So odd turn if events. I was going to tell her off when I got home, but before I could she mentioned to me that I should go out and take pictures and get back into photography. It completely threw me off and I did not know what to say.
@bradlibum I smell a rat, mainly because I had my own experiences with an ex-girlfriend who -- long story short -- only wanted me to be a writer and focus on my art when it was convenient for HER.
Basically, she was happy for me to spend a night banging away at my novel if she had somebody else to bang behind my back.
@starbreaker Gotcha. Sorry to hear that. I will keep an eye on her, but I will not let her take away photography again.
@bradlibum Do you want your children to grow up learning that abuse is OK? You are being abused.
@starbreaker No I do not. I know I am being a pushover when she tells me to stop doing things. I need to stand my ground more, which is usually against my nature. I will see how that goes and think about my future from there on. Thanks for responding. I really needed to vent and get it out of my mind.
I put photography on hold because we were having our daughter. Afterwards I tried to get back into it, but she put a halt to it saying I did not spend enough family time with her. (At this point I worked 36 hours a week in 3 days so I had 4 full days off). I have not been able to touch photography since.
With embroidery, I researched as much as I could and started design and experimenting on our machine. She put a stop to it because she dominated the sewing/embroidery machine with her projects
@bradlibum "She does not realize that she was the reason why I gave up my hobbies that I started."
Maybe you should tell her -- right before you dump her. She sounds toxic, based just on this bit of information.