✨Ben Hamill✨ @benhamill@octodon.social

Had a nightmare last night. The 5yo was late for kindergarten and for some reason we had to take a city bus there (IRL we can walk to the school from our house). So I was managing a kid of the bus and stressing out about that.

Then it got really awful. When we go there it was a different building from the real elementary school and it was night time for some reason. And there was a man there with a gun who was mad at someone specific, but couldn't find his target+

@TQ That... was part of the joke it was trying to tell. Clearly I missed the mark. Alas.

@TQ I think it's just German. 😝

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I'll see myself out.

@lindseyb :3 It's so happy that someone took a bite of it!!!?!?!

@NthTensor Nah. 100% solve it in Ruby. If I implemented this, I'd be looking at a PR against mainline Mastodon. I don't want a closed system, I want an inner circle and an outer circle, both.

I think I grok this well enough that I might at least open an Issue to discuss it with maintainers.

@binary @NthTensor In this case, though, if you posted with the new setting, it would just never notify those instances not in the allow-list. And you'd still have the "Public" setting that would go wherever.

Boosts and such could potentially break your post out, but that's true of Unlisted and Private today, right?

I'm chasing this because someone mentioned the idea of a new privacy setting where your instance would more closely federate with a short list of other instances (forming a slightly larger community). Basically a list of other instances your posts would go to that wasn't Just Everyone in the Federation:tm:. I'm trying to understand how that might work on a technical level and it doesn't sound super hard or breakey.

@NthTensor Middle thing reworded and still correct: No one on my instance has asked for posts from the single-user instance, so my instance never subscribed to them on the single-user server and thus the single-user instance doesn't push them to my instance?

Third thing: Yeah. Good clarification.

So I think it's the PubSubHubbub portion that does what I'm looking for.

Current understanding: I make a post & my instance pushes that post to each instance where someone follows me.

Which means if some single-user instance's user follows me, but no one on my instance (including me) follows them, then my instance is "aware" of theirs, but not in a way that their posts would show up on our federated timeline.

Anybody poke holes in that?

@NthTensor Yaaaaaas. That shown is probably what I need. Thanks!

Can someone point me to a good technical 101 for Mastodon? Or OStatus? Trying to understand: When I make a post, how does another instance find out about it to show to my followers there or the federated timeline?

@kelsey @Eve @Holly@witches.town Ordered! I'm so happy I ran across this thread, y'all. Thank youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu.

Also so happy they made a dead tree edition. The other was bits-only for so long...

@Nire I think I am getting it. I should read more technical stuff on how instances share posts during federation... who calls whom and whatall.

@Holly@witches.town @Eve @kelsey OH EM ZOMG!!! There's a second one?!?!?! I am excite!!!!!!!!

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@tariqk @tcql lets you act one way before and later act a different way without consequence, then "performance" is just action. Which may have some effects.

On the one hand, being inconsistent (which is the real harm in performance, right?) is shitty but also deeply human. On the other hand, fake it til you make it.

Did any of that even make sense?

@tcql @tariqk Insomuch as you are what you do... there is no difference between performance and being. IDK how absolutely you should take that, but I don't think it had to be anxiety inducing if you frame it right. Like, hmm...

If what matters is the effect you have on the world, the people around you and not what's inside or your intentions... And if each act is sort of isolated in that you don't sort of score points for the future that

@Talyaa Fair. Then flight's the runner up after mind reading. Mind reading just seems so effective for dealing with corrupt, shitty politicians and the like.

@Nire Also: I really appreciate your taking the time to talk about this with me.