Today, I argued pretty vigorously about my father about how I dislike how he sometimes uses homophobic slurs in casual sentences, and why I feel bad when he says them in front of me, and my boyfriend.

The same man who, as a kid, when I said a curse word, would make me open a dictionary, find it and read its definition out loud, so I would understand that every word I use has a meaning and implications.

I don't know what to think.

"you know this pejorative word directly draws a parallel between gays and pedophiles, right?" "yes, but I didn't mean it this way and I didn't direct it to you or [boyfriend]"

Another thing he always told me was "do as I say, not as I do" and I guess he wasn't entirely joking about this.

My uncle and aunt sided with him and made this about how I'm "not assuming my identity" because I can't take a slur. What kind of bullshit is that? What the fuck do you know about how I present myself to the outside world? What the fuck do you know about assuming your identity as a gay person?

"just ignore the weird looks and mean words in the streets. They can't hurt you"

"Sometimes, it's not only looks and words, sometimes it's punches and kicks and aggressions"

What did they have to answer to that?
"There will always be homophobes"

I don't know the logic behind this answer. I don't know what the fuck this has to do with anything