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so I use she or they pronouns not because of my gender, but because I simply don't care about which pronouns people use for me.

I hadn't considered this problematic, but someone on the birbsite mentioned they also use the same pronouns for the same reason and that someone told them it was a problematic thing to do.

I...don't get that, and searching around the internet hasn't been fruitful. Is choosing pronouns based on preference and not gender problematic?

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@VickyRampin
Some might consider it weakening their case to do it for gender identity.

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@edclayand can you say more about this? Is it that me picking pronouns based on something that isn't gender makes it harder for another's gender to be taken seriously? Is that sorta what you are getting at?

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@VickyRampin
I'm saying that's the emotional motive.

People feel how they feel; I think in asserting a preference and sticking to it, and if you insist others pronouns be respected, you're helping.

But my key point is, some Trans/ non-binary people might feel the pronoun struggle is /their/ struggle. You having a preference may feel like it's infringing on it.

Note: het cis male with trans friends who is not speaking for them.

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@edclayand I really appreciate this nuance! thank you for explaining more.

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@VickyRampin
And i'm also saying this is one of the ones without a perfect, universal, please everyone answer.

No problem.

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