@SuzanEraslan @SuzanEraslan i told you already miss! Don't drop hints to us! Men are too lazy to pick them up! Use hammer and chisel instead!😉
AND it is not because you do it at City Hall that you cannot wear a wedding dress, at least in France (maybe not in the US).

(Sorry if you get this message for the second time, but my tab fucked up while sending it a'nd i got disconnected, so....)

@CountZero Ha, no, only once. And I am definitely NOT dropping hints. We just haven't decided one way or the other what the plan is, yet.

@SuzanEraslan oooh ooooooK!😉

@SuzanEraslan Keep us updated! I love fancy things!

@SuzanEraslan whoaaaa those are heckin fancy!

@tcql Thanks! They're also heckin' EXPENSIVE, but I never thought I would get married, anyway, so why not have fun with it?

@SuzanEraslan I went to City hall and I had a dress. My mother & I made it - $36US and 2 weekends.

And may I say, having been in/at several full weddings after that, I fully endorse the whole County Clerks’ office thing.

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@aldersprig I grew up in the only 4 star restaurant in my home town, and we had a huge ballroom, so it's where all the fancy weddings happened. I know from weddings, having been to or wo

@SuzanEraslan yeah, I can imagine you would!!

@aldersprig ugh, somehow hit toot too soon-- having been to or worked dozens of them. The trick is to make it fun. The question is just, "Will ours be fun, or will it be fraught because my future father-in-law is a right wing nut job?"

So, I went to try on dresses on Friday and had such a great time and I love FOUR of them equally. I was feeling really good about the whole experience, having spent some good time with my friend who is also getting married, with both of us trying on gorgeous frocks.

Then I sent the pictures to my mom, as she demanded, and she pulled no punches in telling me she basically hated all of them, so what was a wonderful day suddenly became a fraught, depressing, resentful day.

So today, I am going back to try on those 4, take video since I can't decide from just pouring over photos, and try to feel good about it, again, instead of spitefully leaning toward the dress my mom hates the most as the obvious choice.

@SuzanEraslan The most important thing is how you _feel_ when you wear the dress. (And if you can afford it 🤑 )

@susannah Yeah, I tried reminding my mom that she HATED the dress she has since decided is the greatest dress on planet earth when I sent her (PROFESSIONAL!) photos of it, but once she saw it on me in person she loved it. Of course she's not hearing that at all. She's being a total fucking bridezilla, and she's not even getting married!

@SuzanEraslan Oh gosh, moms really know how to push all our buttons! I hope you recapture the fun you had and find something totally you!

@SuzanEraslan I'm sorry. 😡

My sister's dresses looked awful in the photos she sent me. I told her it was hard to tell from the photos and so we talked about the details, colors (which were definitely not coming across in the photo), how it made her feel, and very specific details of fit (does it need to be taken out around your shoulders?). I did NOT tell her they looked awful.

I never liked the photos, but she was just PERFECT in the dress on her wedding day.