Today, I argued pretty vigorously about my father about how I dislike how he sometimes uses homophobic slurs in casual sentences, and why I feel bad when he says them in front of me, and my boyfriend.

The same man who, as a kid, when I said a curse word, would make me open a dictionary, find it and read its definition out loud, so I would understand that every word I use has a meaning and implications.

I don't know what to think.

"you know this pejorative word directly draws a parallel between gays and pedophiles, right?" "yes, but I didn't mean it this way and I didn't direct it to you or [boyfriend]"

Another thing he always told me was "do as I say, not as I do" and I guess he wasn't entirely joking about this.

My uncle and aunt sided with him and made this about how I'm "not assuming my identity" because I can't take a slur. What kind of bullshit is that? What the fuck do you know about how I present myself to the outside world? What the fuck do you know about assuming your identity as a gay person?