I want to see more non-binary defense coming from cis friends. Please speak the fuck out, please defend us, please speak up when being made fun of in the media is the norm. I’m tired of being othered and afraid to show my identity. I want us to share a word. Cis man, cis woman, if you are a true ally, please speak up

A few months ago nonbinary person, looking like what people traditionally as a man, spoke out on a French TV, about what non-binarity is.

The immediate reaction for the public was to deride them, harrass them. The concept of non-binarity was exposed to the general French public as nothing more than a joke, than a meme. "Non-binaire" is a joke in France. And we’re alone in this. No "ally" is standing up, no "ally" is getting anybody to talk to us and even consider our existence. It harrows me.

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It needs to be known how hopeless we feel. It needs to be known how some queer people, queer figures, are willing to sell us out to look more valid to cishet people. It needs to be known we’re absolutely invisible the moment we step out of anglophone online circles. It needs to be known that most of us have internalized the idea that we’re a lesser, low-priority cause (we say "cause", it’s actually our very existences and lives) in progressive spaces

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I’m a demiguy. It’s a non-binary identity. Hello, I exist. I’m not a joke, I’m not a meme, I’m not a hysterical tumblrina, I’m just me

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wow. I had no idea things were that bad.

I'm in the US, but is there anything I can do to help?

(I'm cis, not exactly het – asexual – but I don't seem to be discriminated against for that. So probably effectively cishet.)


@IceWolf being ace is valid :) if you feel that makes you straight it's fine, but it doesn't have to.

The simple thing you can do is show that you think our identities are valid to those around you. You don't have to get into fights or anything, just let people know where you stand, and amplify our voices like you did by boosting my thread, it's already a really good step.

Thank you for caring!

@Siphonay Of course!

And thanks. It wasn't so much "I'm straight" as "I'm effectively straight for this conversation, because I don't deal with the garbage y'all have to deal with".

As for doing things – thanks! I was a little worried I was supposed to get into fights and stuff. This sounds actually doable. (: I can /absolutely/ stick a rainbow button on my backpack or something, if that's the kind of thing you mean!

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