@Acedia I use Whitman's A Song of Myself (or a part there of) as a mantra a manta when shit gets thick.

Do I contradict myself?
Very well then I contradict myself,
(I am large, I contain multitudes.)

So I remember to not define myself as a failure when I fail. Instead I just failed this time, and the rest of me is independent of it.

Not sure if that would work for anyone else, but it does for me. Non-binary selfjudgment.