@Neff be kind to yourself, pal... maybe seek out some therapy - if talking about your feelings isn't your thing, focus on the change management aspect...

@Neff you might well be but that's because grief is there on neither side of a marriage ending, regardless of who initiated it. It's shit, there's no way to avoid it. It doesn't mean you're a failure, it just ended. My M&D divorced and... you know, life goes on and things change and everyone moves on. Because it's inevitable. Science, innit. Keep clutching the science! Meanwhile, keep kind to yourself.