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I mean, I feel like anyone who follows me knows that I'm done with the crap done by privileged people. A thousand years ago I was some naive little centrist who thought differently, but these days? I will not sacrifice the safety of marginalized people out of some higher-than-thou beliefs in free speech or civility or "You're just as bad as the bigots if you fight back."

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Believe people of color. Believe women. Believe LGBT+ people. Believe the disabled. They're complaining for a fucking reason and your excuses and fears of slippery slopes or censorship are garbage and wrong.

They're just fucking wrong.

Give trusting marginalized people a try for a month and see if civilization falls apart--I dare you.

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I understand if anyone has to unfollow me for doing this sort of thing, but there's stuff going on in the Fediverse right this second that I don't feel I can ignore.

If you think I'm doing it to "seem woke"...look, the last thing I want is to be targeted by harassers _again_. I don't want clout; I don't want to be noticed. I'm a flippin' introvert who doesn't even like getting attention on her birthday! Why do you think I've wanted to pass and blend in so badly?

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It's not about "seeming woke"--it's about taking a damn stand against stuff that's happening right here, right now. Because to not say anything is morally reprehensible.

"But not all white people--"

Fuck _off_ with your yourwhataboutism.

theroot.com/not-all-white-peop

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I think I lost a mutual over this thread.

*stretches and leans back*

If I'm honest, that was probably half the point... If anyone's following me who doesn't like any of this, I don't know why they're following me.

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In terms of racial power, white people have everything they can ever need. They're not hurt by me or anyone else saying "white people need to work harder to not be terrible to non-white people." So no, I'm not going to feel bad about generalizing, when doing the opposite--appending "some white people" or "not all white people but some" to everything I say--is detrimental to the cause. People with privilege need to _think about it._

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That includes me, because uhhh...in case anyone forgot...I'm pretty darn white!

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White people have nothing to lose (except for unfair privilege they shouldn't have) and people of color have everything to gain, so... Sorry-not-sorry for calling white people out on their crap. I'll worry about not generalizing them once people of color are no longer oppressed which...I dunno just seems more important for some reason?

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All white people are susceptible to unconscious racial biases, so honestly? Yes, all white people. All white people need to think about this stuff. Even the ones who are sure they're not racist need to listen to people of color and truly think about what they say.

Know how I know that for sure? Because I used to be a white kid who was so sure she hated racism and thus wasn't a racist that she got super offended if a person of color implied she'd done something racist.

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The irony of it? I assumed I knew better than the people who actually had to deal with racism--which is um *checks notes* racist as heck!

Saying "not all white people," exonerating yourself, and then sticking your head in the sand makes you part of the problem.

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Point is, listen to marginalized people; and if you find yourself disagreeing with them, or feel that they're "overreacting", or that you "know better", then ask yourself why you think that.

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Oh, and also? It's a never ending process. I know more now than I did when I was a kid, but that doesn't mean I'm immune to racial biases. I don't live with racism every day, and because of that, there are plenty of racist things that slip by under my nose without me even thinking about it. At best I've just learned enough to understand why it's racist once I do notice or it's pointed out to me.

Point there is...you're not a bad person if you mess up. Just keep at it.

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@Lexi

just, like, in general

ask yourself "why"

it helps

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@Lexi It's ok to mess up. You're only human after all. It's how you handle the mistake, if you refuse to admit you're at fault, or realize you made a mistake and take steps to make amends and work to not do it in the future.

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@Lexi I hope you don't mind me saying but I saw an earlier part of this thread boosted so didn't know you were white until I clicked to this. In much the way "some white people" hurts, "we white people" can be helpful: it highlights that you're critiquing this group with a certain informed perspective.

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@emsenn Thanks, that's a good point and tip! I'll make sure to do that from now on.

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@Lexi Not knowing you, I'm very glad to hear I phrased this well-enough!

Silly white people so racist they'll even listen to white people first about race. :D

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@emsenn Yeah. And the problem with that is we white people end up reassuring each other that we're not racist without really understanding what we're talking about.

Educating us is hard, if not impossible. We only learn this stuff if we want to or need to. But if white people will only listen to white people, then I guess reducing the number of us who are ignorant is vital.

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@emsenn It's not a lost cause, but I'll put my hand up and admit that I probably wouldn't have learned anything if I hadn't experienced transphobia. It's not the same, but it gave me some sort of frame of reference.

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@emsenn I think that's the reason intersectionality is so important: being trans and dealing with people being unintentionally transphobic helped me realize how I could be unintentionally racist, which will maybe lead to me using my whiteness to teach other white people.

And hopefully someone else can speak out for trans people, because we likewise get ignored when we talk about our problems...!

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