Ha, I don't know man.
I just think it's funny how upset white people get because I won't go back and forth with them on some non-sense.
White people get all ragey at minor slights that really doesn't affect them, but completely ignore or pretend to ignore incidents that actually harm people.
I laugh at it because it's just a performance. They really don't care, but they LOVE to perform OUTRAGE.
Ha, but only about the stuff that really doesn't matter.
Funny how that works.
There is fundamental disconnect between what troubles white folks on the fedi and those that aren't.
For example, I fine with people who don't want to listen to me. That's their prerogative.
But I find so many white folks become ENRAGED when I refuse to discuss their subjectivity and feelings on topics that affect POCs, largely because they are just looking for ways to make themselves feel better.
On the other side, we just want spaces free from harassment and abuse.
That's pretty much it
The only moments I see when white people get activated is when it comes to defending bigots and their 'right' to be hateful pieces of shit or when they *feel* their random, unleavened opinions about a topic they know nothing about is rejected.
When it comes to those topics, you see all kind action and mobilization of white folks, which mimics the general posture of White America.
But when it comes to stuff that really matters, like safety and community, the remain quiet.
It's funny to me because of the obviousness of the solution to harassment and abuse not only in the fedi, but online spaces in general.
Ha, just be less garbage and be a bit more mindful of another person's experiences.
But respecting another person from jump is so fundamentally at odds with whiteness, it seems like an IMPOSSIBLE task, when really, it's just because you want to continue to be an asshole.
I find that hilarious. It's not really but that's why I can't stop laughing.
@KitsuneAlicia Yup. That's all it is.
Folks just don't want to do it. And bigots know this and exploit it time and time again.
@Are0h My favorite is the "But who decides who's bigoted and who's not? We need to means test this!" excuse.
Because they need to be absolutely sure the pain marginalized groups is expressing is genuine and we're not somehow faking it. 🤦♀️
That's like...a big fear of many white people as well. I know because when I was young, I felt it. I knew I hated inequality, racism, sexism, etc.--but I didn't understand them half as well as I thought I did, so some things that got called out as racism didn't _seem_ racist to me, and that made me nervous I'd be "falsely accused" or some nonsense.
Furthermore, don't expect a given person to explain why such behavior is bigoted, either. This stuff happens far too often, and so marginalized groups can't be educating people on the same topic 10 times a day. We'd have no time left for ourselves then, so doing your own research is important here.
In my own experiences, I've been called a sexist, homophobe, etc, but it doesn't really bother me b/c I know what I am will reveal it self over time and folks will see it eventually.
In that context it's interesting how white people are more worried about the label of racist moreso than the actual effects of racism itself.
Which has always lead me to believe it's just performative anyway