Question:
If so many men argue that the assholes are the minority, (NOT ALL MEN!!!) why do we never see giant groups of men flooding women's accounts with nice, respectful messages or support?
Why doesn't dogpiling get responded to by a flood of help? Where is the support for women being stalked and threatened? Where are y'all?
I have never in my life been overwhelmed by kindness. But men literally attempt (and often succeed) destroying my life on the daily.
Where are the "good guys"?
@GinnyMcQueen sitting on the sidelines being disgusted at the behavior from the assholes and... being unsure.
If I know (as in personally know, not a random netizen in my timeline) the person being attacked, I'll let them know that I support them.
If I don't know them, I assume that any forced interaction, even well-meaning, could just add to their stress. (and if they don't know me, they might even fear my well-intentioned statement is actually a setup for more abuse too!)
@GinnyMcQueen to those that I do not know personally, it doesn't. I know that and hate it. I do donate to orgs that help professionally, but that's a drop in the ocean.
Please understand that I do want to help. If you call me, I will come. If a friend of a friend calls me, I will come.
But I know how the unclean depths of the Internet have ruined normal interactions for us, and am thus wary of doing things that might immediately do more harm than good.
@GinnyMcQueen (addendum: "let someone know that I support them" isn't the end of the conversation. It's the start. They can then let me know what they need in terms of help, and they'll get that. But I won't decide how someone else is helped best without respecting their input on that first)
@JollyOrc How does that help women being abused, stalked, or threatened?