I'm living in a state of near-perpetual anger. =/ I don't like this version of me, and there seems no end to my wife's madness. A litigated divorce will likely take 2 years, and my wife won't sign a settlement agreement. I'm about to break, either from reality or into a million pieces.
@FadingAway that's awful. Why can't people be reasonable in situations like that?!
@jason In hindsight, I should have realized in the very beginning how unreasonable she was. So, in a way, it's my fault and my greatest regret in life that I put myself into this situation.
@jason I suppose I was naive and ignorant. I wish I could send a message to my pre-relationship self, but of course, that would only help the "me" in what would surely result in an alternative timeline.
@FadingAway I mean, I'm a fan of timeline hopping, so maybe it's worth a try 😉
@jason @FadingAway hey, I know I'm jumping in y'all's conversation late. But when my wife and I first separated I spent a lot of time on this website divorcebusting.com. Firstly, it's a wonderful community of people who are going through the same thing you are and wanting to help out. Secondly, they emphasize taking care of yourself. So if you're living in a constant state of anger that isn't good. Do what you got to do to take care of yourself and for your kids.
@churley79 understanding self-care was a huge help for me, too. I realized that I hadn't been taking good care of myself, partly because I was always prioritizing her needs over mine. That was a timely, powerful lesson.
@churley79 @jason Thanks for the advice and link. I think my wife really needs support right now because she doesn't have many real friends. I have been exercising and walking a lot, so I'm in great shape. Basically, I need her to leave me alone now so that I can get on with my life without her.
@FadingAway that was my marriage/divorce experience, too. It sucked.
Maybe you can see the past clearly now, but you were different back then. You only did the best you knew to do.