@wim_v12e Ugh, I can guess that being told you've had it easy your whole life is very very obnoxious. That is exactly the same thing my spouse (a woman) complained about too: “you’re the diversity hire”, “your boyfriend helped you with your your homework”. The worst I got of that was my mom saying “eat your lima beans, kids are starving in Africa!” Which wasn’t even in the same league.

Thanks for reminding me about this. For me privilege was silent (Guo). I will remember for others it’s not.